Most people come to this work with a burning desire for personal or spiritual development. Some arrive because they’re stuck and need help in achieving a specific result, and others who are simply committed to becoming the best version of themselves.
They attend the seminars and events, read the famous books, see their array of healers, try the apps, and enroll in the programs. Their lives have improved, and many things work for them. They have learned, grown, and evolved in tremendous ways, knowing the value this work brings to people.
And yet… here they are. Here you are.
Despite all the work, all the success, all the knowledge… a tickle remains. It doesn’t matter how much or little money, how brilliant or average, how advanced or new… a never-ceasing whisper calls out… A faint nudging towards something beyond mainstream ideas of success and the consistent hamster wheel of “self-help”.
They come here thinking it’s just another level of the same thing they’ve been doing… but then I start saying things like:
“Stop. Stop. Stop trying to fix yourself.”
“The spiritual path is failing you, call it off.”
“Do it wrong. Mess it up. Do the opposite.”
“It’s not about feeling good—it’s about feeling.”
“It’s not about making it positive, but the truth.”
…and they look at me like a Looney Tunes character. It goes against everything they’ve been doing to “be a better person”.
But that’s the problem, dear one. The better person you’re looking for is already here.
In your magnificent, self-loving attempts to become a better person, you’ve only built a better persona. You’ve rejected, suppressed, and thrown away the best parts of you and replaced it with an image—a facade, a false idol you thought was more lovable, and began to worship it. But this image isn’t real, and nothing unreal could ever be lovable.
And that’s why you suffer: you rejected yourself, created something unlovable in its place, and spent your life trying to improve upon it, wondering why it’s never enough.
A “better ego” is not anything like “a-more-you-than-you’ve-ever-been”. A better persona cannot even be compared to the magnificence of who-you-really-are behind the stories of not being enough, unwanted, or that there’s something wrong with you.
We’ve been sold a lie, and all bought into it hook-line-and-sinker.
It’s not your fault, and it’s not a bad thing. It was a necessary act in the unfolding narrative that brought you here. And it’s here—now—that you stand on the precipice of a new reality.